Sending nudes and sexting

Talk with your child about the consequences of sending or sharing intimate or sexually explicit messages, images, photos or videos — and how you can help if things go wrong.

The term “sexting” isn’t always used by young people; they might say “sending nudes” or “dick pics”.

What are the risks?

• Once shared, an image can be copied, saved and reposted widely without consent.
• Removal is difficult; consequences can follow into adulthood.

• A friend/partner may share more broadly than intended, even impulsively.
• After a breakup, images can be used to humiliate or harm (image-based abuse).

• Pressure, coercion or threats (“sextortion”) can push young people to send images.
• Dating sites/strangers pose added risks where motives aren’t known.

The consequences can be serious

• Humiliation, shame, distress, withdrawal from school/family life — in severe cases, self-harm.
• Bullying/harassment if photos circulate among peers (including cyberbullying).
• Reputational damage affecting school and future opportunities.
• Legal issues when sexualised images involve people under 18.

How can I minimise the risks to my child?

Match the conversation to your child’s maturity. Use real-life stories or scenarios to open discussion.

• They never have to send intimate images just because others do.
• Suggest polite/firm ways to refuse; if requests continue, block and seek adult support.

Explain that sharing another person’s images without consent breaks trust and may be illegal.

• Once shared, control is almost impossible to regain.
• Identifiable features (face, hair, tattoos, jewellery, background) can reveal identity.
• Viewing/sending intimate images can carry legal risks, even if willingly shared.

What can I do when things go wrong?

• Thank them for telling you; reassure them you’ll sort it out together.
• Be supportive and help them understand consequences — they’re not alone.

Gather details and move quickly to minimise harm.

• Talk to your GP if worried about wellbeing; consider referral to adolescent psychology.
• Young people can access counselling via Child Helpline and local services.

Steps to take depending on the situation

If your child has sent an intimate image of themselves:

• Once shared, it’s hard to control what happens next.
• Viewing/sending intimate images can carry legal risks — even if willingly shared.

• Ensure your child doesn’t share it further; delete from their device if safe.
• Ask the recipient to delete the image and not forward it; if necessary, seek adult help.
• In school-related cases, notify the school for coordinated support and containment.

If it’s online, report it to the platform/authority for takedown assistance.

• If an adult requested images (possible grooming), contact local police immediately.
• If serious bullying/harassment is involved, file a cyberbullying report.

This material has been adapted with permission from the Australian Government eSafety Commissioner . Permission to adapt content does not constitute endorsement of material by the eSafety Commissioner.